Dating rules during 1st year soberiety
Similarly, even the relationships that last can trigger a relapse and a return to substance abuse, especially if the other person is an active user of drugs and alcohol or also new to recovery.Says Miller: “Early in recovery, getting into a relationship, you really take the focus off of yourself and put it on somebody else.It bears repeating that it is only within the first year that dating in recovery is not suggested.
People involved in 12-step programs often rely on the “one-year rule” for guidance.
They may initially feel great, but it doesn’t take long before we find ourselves slipping into old patterns, habits and behaviors.
It also becomes very difficult to sort out what are my issues to work on and what are someone else’s.
He is currently pursuing a master’s in social work.
He says: “It’s been my experience that it’s not a good idea for people new to recovery to date or be in a relationship.
explains, “experts almost universally advise against making any major changes in your life in the first year of sobriety-and that includes dating and/or jumping into a new relationship, or ending an existing relationship or marriage.” This rule isn’t supposed to depress you; it’s supposed to protect you and your recovery.